I had been unsuccessfully writing a book my whole life. With my 60th birthday looming, I realized something had to change if I would ever actually complete a book. I was at a turning point. Book or no book, that was the burning question.
In my 60th year, I did what it took to intentionally transform to the person I was intended to be all along. The person who would write my book. I transformed so I could take my unique, enduring place in the world.
Passion is an action word
Each of us is meant to find and claim our place, and we all yearn for the journey that will lead us to find the one-of-a-kind role we were meant to play, the person we were intended to be, the person we know in our mind’s eye, the person we long to discover and be. I yearned to write a book.
But yearning isn’t an action word. Passion is an action word. So how did I change a yearning into a passion? I examined what I wanted and what I was willing to do get it. For me – and perhaps for you – there were things getting in my way. In my 60th year, I became willing to make changes so I could get what I wanted. I became passionate; I removed my roadblocks.
- Because I had a full-time job, I needed to work on my book in the evening. Since my evenings usually included several glasses of wine, I needed to quit drinking, so I could write. And, I did. One roadblock removed.
- Because publishing and promoting a book takes money, I needed to get my finances in order, so I would have the needed resources. And, I did. Another roadblock removed.
- Because writing a book took time and energy, I needed to focus on my writing and not on what others were or should be doing. So, I quit having expectations of others. Final roadblock removed.
Be the hero of your own story
I went from feeling the tension between the life I was living and my longed for life that had a purpose uniquely mine to being passionate about my purpose. I felt this tension most of my adult life but during my 60th year, I learned how to become the hero of my own story. I decided to transform – intentionally – from yearning for my birth right to being passionate about my birth right.
I decided what I wanted to create in my life, decided what I needed to change, so I could create what I wanted in my life and I did so by utilizing tools I had found throughout my journey. Those tools helped to create a self-fulfilling prophecy. I published my book – Peace in the Puzzle: Becoming Your Intended Self – last year by having a passion for being who I was supposed to be all along.
Are you yearning for your intended self?