Change is good. Or is it? Lately, that question has been on the forefront of my mind.
A few months ago I decided it was time for change, drastic change. I decided my life wasn’t what I wanted it to be. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t bad, in fact, it was somewhat easy. So why change it? The reason being, I didn’t want any regrets on the life I had lived. I wanted to live. I wanted to have good stories, even if they all didn’t turn out well.
Everyone likes to hear good stories. Life is about personal growth. Growth comes from change. Change comes from moving from the familiar to the unfamiliar.
Living life with no regrets brought me to evaluate my current career. While I was successful, it didn’t feed who I am. Insert change. While most intelligent people look for a new career while maintaining their current one, I took a different approach.
I wanted real change. Why dip your toe in the water, when you can immerse your whole body? Jump in, I thought; so I did. I left my career to pursue something yet to be defined. Here I am forty-five days later in the midst of change, being unemployed and searching for a new adventure.
Fear and excitement
With any type of change comes two emotions: fear and excitement. On a daily basis, each of these are present fighting for center stage. However, here is what I found: successful change requires equal parts of both.
If excitement is the fuel that propels us down the road, fear is the GPS that keep us on course. Excitement revs us up, as we think about the positive results or the new environment that lays ahead. Fear gives us the “what if’s”, which helps us to think about contingencies, creating plans of actions and finding peace with worse case scenarios. Both are mission-critical. If either of these held majority control, we would end up stagnant. Fear alone will keep us from action. Excitement alone will have us directionless.
Stay on course
In the beginning, it was confusing. However the longer I am immersed in this change, the more I understand it and thus can embrace it. What I learned is that it is okay for each of these emotions to fight for center stage. It is normal. In fact, when they do, I know I am progressing towards my goal of change. My daily task now is to listen to what each emotion is saying, reflect and not allow either to push me off course. Change is good. Stay tuned.