Caring for aging parents

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My mom’s house has finally been rented. A new family is moving in next week, and that’s a huge relief. It’s also been quite a process since moving her out two and a half years ago. We did nothing for three months, then hired someone to help us with an estate sale. Thus started the [...]

Clothes encounters

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There have been several posts and podcast discussions on the site about women and beauty and feeling good in your own skin. I’ve been thinking about it a lot since the new season of What Not To Wear started last month, a show that I’m completely addicted to. People who know me might think this [...]

Nice women finish last at work? Is it true?

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For this week’s blog, I decided to scan the Huffington Post to check out the buzz in their Women / Career & Money section. I figured something there would grab my attention, and I wasn’t disappointed. Two prominently featured stories were Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It and When Women Feel Like Frauds They Fuel [...]

Exercising Outdoors: Gain A Whole New World

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I used to exercise only indoors.  I didn’t want to be on display, huffing and puffing in the larger world; I felt more comfortable in the sanctity of the gym, with the other huffers and puffers; no one paid any attention to me and that was the way I liked it.  Besides, everything was right [...]

Hate exercise? Do it anyway

I have been more disciplined about exercise in the last two years of my life than I have ever been before. It’s not that I developed discipline; my motivation has been equal parts vanity and fear. Vanity, because, when I turned (how can it be possible?) 50, I realized I was losing a certain trimness [...]

Dressing for success

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I tasked myself with writing about appropriate sartorial decisions in the workplace, and I’ve been kicking myself ever since. Dress codes are passé, right? And who doesn’t know how to dress for their job? Well, if you look around, lots of people, including sometimes, me. Being self-employed, I venture into the corporate world only occasionally, [...]

Celebrating the holidays – your way

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Note: This blog originally published in December 2010. As a single person, what’s your favorite time of year? When I ask this question of my single friends I hear lots of different answers. But one thing I hardly ever hear is “the holidays.” It’s not too hard to understand why—from Thanksgiving through New Year’s Eve, [...]

The value of good money management

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Note: This blog originally published in January 2011. In one of the few vivid memories I have of my paternal grandfather, I’m about six, and he and I are sitting on my bed and he’s talking about money. Actually, he’s giving me money—a dollar bill, as I recall—along with a lesson. “Easy come, easy go,” [...]

Procrastination: Tips & tricks for breaking the habit

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Note: this blog originally published in April 2011. I’ve always been a procrastinator. I’m funny about it, though. If I have a tough work assignment, and I’m putting it off, I won’t do something fun; I’ll do something just one notch down on the un-fun to-do list, like vacuuming or paying bills. That way, I [...]

Getting out of your comfort zone: 3,2,1… go!

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Note: This blog originally published in July 2011. No matter how great you are at your job, if you don’t get to stretch yourself regularly you run the risk of becoming irrelevant. Or at the very least, you miss out on opportunities you never knew about. A small leap of faith Case in point: a [...]