Can we chat about sex?

I’m not sure if it’s a Minnesota thing or just my particular circle of friends, but no one really talks about sex. I mean really talks about it. People joke about it and may make a comment here and there, but there are very few people I know who will really have a conversation about it. Why is that?

The theme on SheTaxi this month is Passion, which makes this the appropriate time to rip down the embarrassment doors and talk about sex. It seems to me, sex and passion go hand in hand.

Sex is fun. Sex is a part of life (for most). And, most importantly, sex can be good for you and your health.

There are a number of studies (here’s just one of them) available on how a good sex life actually leads to better health and a longer life. I could review those studies and summarize them for you, but I wanted to go a bit further. I wanted to talk to real women about what benefits they’ve experienced from a passionate sex life.

Guess what? Some of them actually talked! Not surprisingly, some of what I learned was in lock step with what the studies found. Here are the three main benefits that came up on multiple occassions. (Thanks to all the ladies that were willing to talk about the s-word!)

Sleep

I was actually surprised how many people told me they slept better when their sex life was good. I had read that in many of the studies, but for some reason, I wasn’t expecting it to come up as much as it did. A passionate sex life consistently leads to better sleep.

We all know that getting enough sleep is an important healthy habit, but maybe you didn’t know that this was one way to achieve better quality sleep. Better quality sleep definitely leads to a happy and healthier life. A happy and healthier life may lead to better sex life. See the circle of awesomeness that creates? So cool! For the insomniacs out there, maybe this is your answer? It certainly can’t hurt to try!

Stress Relief

I don’t know many woman out there who live a stress-free life. There are many ways to combat stress, but why not sex? It’s actually proven to lower your blood pressure. Many women I spoke to mentioned the stress relieving benefits of romping around with their partner.

It makes complete sense. Sex can be fun, exciting and a workout all in one. It definitely has the ability to help you forget about a stressful day at work. Let’s keep sex in our arsenal of stress relieving tactics.

Connection

I heard this over and over and I couldn’t agree more. I believe it is the most important reason of all to keep your flame lit. Women feel so much more connected to their partner when they are having regular sex. I think even when you don’t have enough time to connect on day to day life, connecting at this level keeps couples close and in sync.

The connection you make in the bedroom also carries over into other areas of your life. It can break up humdrum routines you may find yourself in and can lead to more non-sexual touching and affection in your day to day life. Who doesn’t want that? One woman commented that if she and her husband can be in sync in the bedroom it helps them be in sync on other issues at well.

So, maybe the next time you feel disconnected from your significant other or you’re not seeing eye to eye, you need to move matters to the mattress.

So, now it’s your turn. How do you see sex as helping your overall health and well-being? Do these three themes from other real women resonate with you?