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- opening your mind,

- honoring your spirit,

- caring for your body,

- nurturing yourself,

– being real and authentic.

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Without your stuff, who are you?

stuffimagesI recently saw a commercial for Norton protection services and while it absolutely offers a good reminder to back-up important things saved on your computer, I found its message a bit unsettling. In case you’d like to follow along, here is the commercial.

Norton suggests that you should protect the items saved on your computer because, “what are you without your stuff?” Better yet, “without your stuff, who are you?” The commercial seriously implies that if you lose your stuff, you lose your identity. It plays on our cultural fear of not having a tangible representation of how cool we are individually. I think the reason the message in the commercial bothered me is because it was probably very effective.

In the commercial, the two “stuff creatures” were attracted to one another because of the other’s stuff. My cultural studies education forces me to interpret that Norton is suggesting that your stuff is what attracts others to you and if you don’t have stuff, you’ll be lonely! So now we are afraid that if we don’t buy Norton, we could end up unvaried and alone forever. How much!?

It’s a strange notion that we’re all so obsessed with our “stuff” and hold the belief that our stuff defines who we are. Yet, as a society, it’s common to collect things in hopes of defining personal value. One article suggests that, “we grow up in a world where our self-worth is based upon the material possessions that we acquire. From the schoolyard to our office cubicles, we spend our lives desperately trying to prove our existence through the cheap, mass-produced, disposable and completely worthless things we own.”

The idea of “stuff” seems to now be going a step further. We attain this “stuff” and then store the proof on our computers or on the web so we have online confirmation of our identity as well. On our computers and online, we house our photos, interests, friends, and activities. Without them, we must have no distinctness from anyone else, right? Norton saw this as an opportunity.

It is so ingrained in our culture and society to feel this impulse to buy, to own, and especially to display possessions or things we think define us. However, my aversion to this commercial reminded me that our possessions do little to prove our self-worth or display our personality. It is so important to our well being to truly believe that who we are is contained in ourselves, and not our things.



Time to get your groove on

grroveimagesWhat is your celebration groove?

Dance, move, jump, twirl – allow the laughter of being youthful to enter your day. Whether 17 or 87, let the wonders of your existence be filled with joy. Whether physically challenged or strong and empowered, allow the glory of YOU to be seen. Your body is a vessel to fulfill your life purpose. Care for it, appreciate it, most certainly love it; allow whatever body you dwell in to be celebrated. Dance, move, jump, and twirl – allow the energy of life to fill you completely.

What authentic step of celebration will you experience today?


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Laugh at yourself and let others do it too – fear begone!

fear of embarassmentimagesNot so recently my husband of 21 years and I decided to shake it up and choose a new activity to share instead of dinner or a movie. We love comedy shows so we decided to sign up for an improv class at Stevie Ray’s Comedy Club.

To give you a little perspective, I wouldn’t call myself extremely funny or extroverted especially when comparing myself to my gregarious spouse or some of the other members of the class. Regardless it felt like a big leap for both of us. Not only did we grow in our ability to communicate, to think quickly on our feet, and to be flexible and spontaneous. We learned how to apply these new skills in our daily lives. We learned to be comfortable being uncomfortable and vulnerable. We learned quickly that we were all in the same boat . We dropped our guard and when we were willing to do that we were more real and had more fun!

When I would tell people of our newest endeavor they would usually say “Oh, I could never do that!” It wasn’t until the show that I understood where the fear originated.

The last requirement was a show performed by the class, using our new found skills, before an audience of invited family and friends. My spouse and I agreed to perform and we also agreed NOT to invite anyone to the performance for fear of humiliation.

Pre show jitters aside we thoroughly enjoyed our performance and the celebration of each persons individual growth and that of the class as a whole. What we quickly realized was our disappointment for not having the courage to ask our friends and family to celebrate with us. We robbed them of some laughter and we robbed ourselves of the opportunity to celebrate our accomplishments with them.

My realization was that most people said they couldn’t for fear of judgment by themselves or by others. I likely would have asked others had I realized earlier that if we don’t judge ourselves how can others judge us?

So whether you are celebrating your graduation from college, having a birthday or that new promotion be sure to have a party or do something special for you to commemorate your growth. Celebrating brings the energy forward for continued growth and is just plain FUN!


How to remain peaceful in chaos

stress-relaxHow do you maintain peace when others prefer chaos?

When those around you seem to enjoy discord, pull away. Energetically distance yourself from those calling in distress. This is your time to shine. This is your opportunity to be a healthy example. Spend your best energy each day sharing peace, love, and tranquility. Center your strength and focus pursuing what builds and inspires those in your midst.

Remember, when others prefer chaos and disharmony, you have a choice. You can stay in their presence, or simply move away. Promote what is good and healthy; promote living and giving as your best you!

What will you do to stay sane in unrest today?

Accept that others are dissimilar. Accept that others register logic differently than you. People sharing our work-world are not necessarily like-minded. Listen with an open mind when tempers rise, stay aware when negative emotions ensue. Goal one in times of frustration will be to maintain patience.  Act never react, sustaining your poise and control. Professional persuasion comes from a strong leader. Choose today to be one open to all.

What step of acceptance will you extend today?

~Fuel up and enjoy the day!


The buzzing in my brain

Icreativity saw a t-shirt in a Bayfield, WI store window this past summer that made me laugh out loud. It said: “I don’t have ADHD, I just—hey, look at that squirrel!”

This is my life. Filled to the brim, and then some.

I’m trying to get a handle on it, but—hey, was that my email dinging? My cell phone ringing? The door maybe? Geez, I better log on to Facebook. I wouldn’t want to miss anything.

This is a problem. It’s impossible to turn off all the access points without feeling cut off. But it’s getting harder to get anything done. We used to seek out information; now it’s thrust at us in a continuous stream. There’s an app for that. There’s a wiki for that. No? Then just google it, for godsakes.

In one of my favorite novels, “Easy Travel to Other Planets,” author Ted Mooney describes a malady called “information sickness” that plagues people in the future (the book was written in 1981). I think we’re there, and that information sickness is real, though we may not recognize it yet.

I can’t help wonder what all the buzz is doing to my attention span, our collective attention spans—and brains. And we just can’t seem to get enough. Even in the car, we’re talking and texting, while the kids in the back are doing the same.

I diagnosed myself with ADD several years ago, but so many of my friends feel the same that now I wonder if it’s not just life in the 21st century. There’s some relief in the discovery that we’re not crazy – the world is.

Getting older may also play a role. A lot of what I’ve read about menopause reports that an inability to focus is a common complaint. I wish there was some way to compare women’s experiences now with our grandmothers’, to determine if there is an “environmental” cause, but no one was thinking about menopause, or researching it, 50+ years ago.

For now, I’ll just keep on creating little blocks of ‘quiet time’ in which I’ll try to find that sweet spot of concentration. But when I look at my nieces and the many other teens and 20-somethings I know, I’ll also be wondering where their brains will be in 30 years’ time. Maybe by then we’ll know everything..



A new approach for making positive changes

Change_What_You_re_Doing_to_SucceedCommonly, we find ourselves occupied with trying to change a bad habit. This “trying” means a big amount of energy is being wasted. What if I tell you that instead of beginning this fight with yourself, you put your energy into creating a new habit.  Your energy will flow into shaping the new habit and gradually leave behind the old one. Remember, “Where intention goes, the energy flows”.

What happens when you realize that you have gained a few pounds? Immediately, the reaction is to begin thinking how to lose them. One option is to change your eating habits, maybe decreasing the amount of chocolate in your diet or decreasing portion sizes. Probably what happens is you start thinking more and more about what you “can´t eat.” Eventually, you become obsessive about the way you eat. However, what would happen if you focus your energy towards eating a new and delicious food group?  Your energy will flow to focusing on eating in a different way and, gradually, you’ll leave behind your old eating habit. Instead of trying to erase the old path in your brain, you are creating a new one. Every learning experience remains registered in our brain as a path of neurons. When we put effort into creating new paths, our energy remains focused in these new paths—“where the intention goes, the energy flows.”

Rather than thinking about the changes you want to make, I suggest finding new options or “paths” to focus on, and adopting the one that makes sense to meet your goals.  Make a decision, and put it into practice, focusing your attention on this new option. Don’t worry if you are keeping your past behaviors, just focus on continuing in the new one. You’ll eventually see how this new habit will displace the old one. Remember to be gentle with yourself, as this is an act of love.

I hope this is a useful tool for you to implement to reach your goals.



Feel the power

 5-handling-successDefined as: great or marked ability to do or act; strength; might; force

Feel the POWER.

Personal power is what we use to make a change. Personal power is what we use to bring others along. Our personal power is the combination of our talents, passions, expertise and strengths. Understand what motivates you to be your best. Understand what drives you to make the difference that only you can. Use this to inspire the world around you. Use this to bring enthusiasm to those in need. Know it, own it, harness it and use it; share your power for the greater good of all. 

How will you define your POWER today

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Burning the candle at only one end

candle one endimagesUs women are amazing. We really try to do it all….at least I sure do! And I pay the price. I’m fried, overwhelmed, exhausted, and miserable! And I keep lying to myself that I will slow down. Despite the hetic pace I maintain, I have found a way to keep from frying to a crisp. I take advantage of those little pieces of free time. Think of those chunks of 10 or 15 minutes that happen daily, and let’s put them to good use.

First, make it simple. In other words: NO MULTI-TASKING! Just read, or just listen to music, or just chat with a friend on the phone. I used to chew dark chocolate while cleaning. (Burn the calories before they stick to my butt, right?) Now, I SIT, close my eyes, and let the chocolate MELT on my tongue. When I do this, my whole body slows down to analyze the flavor. Now it takes a few moments for chocolate to melt, so that’s a few moments I’m not doing three things at once. And I avoid burning out.  

Second, make it something you can do at home. If you don’t have to leave the house, chances are you’ll find more time to indulge! No hunting for car keys or fighting traffic. Just pick up that book for another chapter, or add more stitches to your knitting/sewing.

Third, be prepared. Have all the stuff you need for your next project, or the next book you want to read, or a stash of chocolate in cupboard. Can you remember having chunk of free time fall into your lap and you had no idea what to do with it? Frustrating, isn’t it? Be prepared and you won’t be disappointed.

It’s been a few months of treating myself in those little pockets of down time, and I’m happy to report I’m liking the result. I’m not so exhausted at the end of the day anymore. Tired, yes. Exhausted, not anymore. Who knew? I CAN stop burning the candle at both ends! Can you?


40 Something surprises

40imagesMy 40′s did not begin with a surprise. Yep, NO surprise party. [Yes, dear husband, you were supposed to plan that one. But you are right, I would have gotten upset when I discovered your plans prematurely and subsequently found out that you ordered a cake without my input on filling flavor. Well, there’s always my 50th. Hint: cheesecake filling.]

Though there was no surprise party, there hasn’t been a shortage of surprises since turning 40. In fact, a variety of health care professionals have provided me with what seems like an onslaught of 40-something surprises [mostly unpleasant and unwelcome].

From my gynecologist: Surprise! ACOG guidelines state that you are now eligible for a digital rectal exam at EVERY visit.

From my dentist: Surprise! Your molars are cracked from what appears to be a lifetime of teeth grinding in your sleep.

From my family doctor: Surprise! You have high cholesterol. [Better nix the cheesecake filling] Plus, you’ve been chosen to receive a free preview of menopause–enjoy your hot flashes! And as an added bonus, you now need to work out an hour a day just to maintain your current weight–-double that if you want to reach your goal weight. [Kudos to you, Marie Osmond and Valerie Bertinelli! Looking good after 40...and 50!]

From my dermatologist: Surprise! Here’s a list [totally unsolicited] of procedures from which your face and skin might benefit [dermal fillers are indeed tempting].

From my optometrist: Surprise! You can’t read because you are now farsighted…due to age.

The good news is that studies show our sense of well-being peaks as we reach middle age. [Really? It feels kind of like apathy.] Looks like a barrage of minor ailments is the price we 40-somethings pay for a greater sense of well being. [I’m still not sure if that’s good deal or not.]